Forgive yourself for what you had to do to get to kill your sadness.
Forgive yourself for how you settled, or allowed yourself to be treated.
Forgive yourself for the ways in which you didnt fight for who you were becoming.
Roberto Nickson
Forgive yourself for the ways you tried to catch your footing.
It can be deeply confusing.
It is understandable that weve in a way grown distant from our own souls, from our own hearts.
Its a very human thing to struggle with.
Because you deserve it you always have.
If you are struggling with fostering self-love, try asking yourself who you truly are, deep down.
Ask yourself what you like, and dislike.
Ask yourself how you want to feel when you go out into the world.
Really think: Who are you when youre alone with your mind?
When youre not trying to be everything for everyone?
What genuinely makes you happy?
And there is no perfect way to execute our existence.
It is never as black and white as we think it is.
We have all been versions of ourselves that we wouldnt necessarily clap for now.
This doesnt make you a bad person.
This makes you human.
So a step towards loving yourself is forgiveness.
Forgive yourself for what you had to do to make it kill your sadness.
Forgive yourself for how you settled, or allowed yourself to be treated.
Forgive yourself for the ways in which you didnt fight for who you were becoming.
Forgive yourself for the ways you tried to catch your footing.
There should be no gap between those two realities.
Try your best to be honest with yourself about who you are, and dont ever edit yourself.
There is a disconnect between your desires and your actions.
Remind yourself that who you are on the inside is worthy.
You dont have to edit yourself so that be accepted or loved or cared for.
You dont have to change yourself.
You just have to be unapologetically who you are.
Stand in your power.
That kind of freedom is life-changing, because youre respecting yourself.
And when you earn your own respect, you stand firmly in who you are.
Youre being kind to yourself.
Youre being proud of who you are.
You are a human being who is learning and growing each and every day.
And you have a lot of work to do, as well.
Life isnt ever going to be void of those things.
It is important to show yourself some grace, to trust in yourself and in the process.
Its about setting yourself up, about doing the hard work.
Its about showing up for yourself.
So ask yourself how can you show up for yourself right now?
What can you do that you will look back on and feel proud of?
Sometimes that looks like being healthy, even when you dont want to.
And this also means showing yourself love by healing, even when it hurts.
Showing yourself kindness, especially when it isnt easy, is the best way to show yourself love.
Pay attention to the things that make you come home to yourself.
The things that make you happy, the things that bring you to life.
Ask yourself what brings you joy?
Who are you with when youre the happiest?
What are you doing when you feel the best?
What ignited that kind of beauty in your life?
Fill your life with those things, and those people.
But double-check that you are paying attention to the opposite, too.
Who makes you question yourself?
Who makes you feel like you are hard to love?
Cut yourself off from those things.
Walk away from those things.
Think about all of the ways you love others, the ways you forgive and celebrate them.
Now ask yourself, why dont you do that for yourself?
We show up so deeply for those in our lives and we forget to show up for ourselves.
We love others so unconditionally, and we forget to give ourselves that same love.
We forgive others for being human, for making mistakes, and we rarely do the same for ourselves.
We dont celebrate and encourage ourselves.
That we didnt deserve it.
So this is your reminder you are deserving of the love you give to everyone else around you.
You are deserving of your forgiveness.
You are deserving of your grace.
Its time to take all of that belief and invest it into yourself.
Its time to see your own worthiness.
