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Updated 6 years ago,July 29, 2019
We as human beings thrive in connection with others.
We were not created to be alone.
Usually these things are found within our families and circle of friends.
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But what happens when you have to go it alone?
When you have no family or friends you could count on for support?
What do you do when you are out here fighting alone?
First things first: you mourn.
You grieve the loss of having no one it’s possible for you to count on.
You cycle through the stages of griefdenial, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance.
You allow yourself to feel those emotions.
Sit here, but do not make grief your residence.
Do not make sadness your permanent address.
Allow yourself the space to feel this then get up, shower, dress, and make yourself breakfast.
You will need your strength because you have work to do.
You have to find out how best to support YOU.
As you do this work, remember you have you.
You are not without someone.
You have done it so many times before.
When you were first being formed in your mothers strong womb, you were alone.
When you were playing in your room, sometimes you were in the company of one.
Other times you just had you and your imagination to rely on.
You know how to be alone.
You already have a repertoire of flying solo.
The blueprint on how to be alone has already been formed.
Keep in mind that you are not alone in being alone.
Many people feel the same way you do and have no friends or family to rely on too.
They have used the time to build their own empires.
They have collected concrete tools, namely quotes, affirmations, and sayings that keep them regularly motivated.
They have looked in their mirror and engaged in what is known as power posing.
Mostly they engage in radical self-care.
They do not wait for others to validate their intuition.
They honor their own voice.
They journal and meditate and let themselves breathe.
They take up space and reclaim their time.
They rest and drink water and eat nutritious well-balanced meals.
They become their own best friend and learn how to protect themselves from spiritual exploitation.
They know that there will be days when they will want to throw themselves away.
They will remind themselves of their worth.
They will double-check to take extra care of themselves and be the love they deserve.
This is why rest and rehydration are essential to your survival.
