People (and yes, we’ve all been guilty) are so busy looking for Mr. or Mrs.
Right"The One"that they forget one crucial thing: Perfection is an illusion.
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Updated 4 years ago,May 16, 2021
Love.
Joanna Nix
For someone to share our days and nights with.What an utterly confusing, exhausting, yet ridiculously comforting thought.
For those who have it and those that dont, love is a universal desire.
Ive yet to meet a person that hasnt wondered about it at least once in their lifetime.
But keeping hold of that love?
Now thats another story.
With divorce rates so high, it makes you wonder why that love seems to evaporate.
Or is it just boredom?
I have one theory for at least some of those heartbreaks, anyway.
To stop looking through always-critical eyes.
To realize that perfect doesnt exist.
Maybe a parent or a sibling.
You love them dearly.
God, they drive you mad.
They irritate, anger, and infuriate you.
Youve had blazing rows and said things neither of you mean.
You hate the bad habits they just wont drop.
But have you ever cut them off?
Have you really, honestly, cut off a member of your immediate family?
(Again, I stress, it has to be a member that you love and respect!)
The good times outweigh the arguments.
The similarities outweigh the differences.
The shared experiences we have together outweigh the separate lives we lead.
You see, we dont tend to divorce our family.
You see it through.
You talk things out.
You accept them for their flaws.
And so for me, your long-term partner or spouse that you fell in love with and choseisyour family.
They will be your home, the person you laugh or cry or cook dinner with.
They might be the parent of your children.
Because family isnt always blood.
Its also who you choose.
Im not saying everyone should stay with someone who is destructive to their wellbeing.
We all make mistakes, and people can fool us.
But its so essential to remember one thing before making a make or break decision.
No one is perfect.
Not you, not them, not anyone walking this earth.
Because if you are, youll never be happy.
My advice would always be: Stay picky.
Choose carefully, however long that takes.
But just dont dismiss a love when it comes along because its notperfectenough for you.
If you have a loved one, atrueloved one, hold onto them.
Make the effort to understand them.
And if youre still looking for yours, keep your heart open.
Remember, the grass is rarely greener, and youll be surprised what comes your way.
