And its not a bad obsession to have.
Becoming the best version looks different for each person.
The idea of best and the steps or decisions along that journey arent the same across the board.
Jonathan Borba
Only YOU are responsible for your life.
Its easy to blame other people.
Its easy to find fault in others, to play the victim.
Its easy to say Life isnt fair or they kept me from going after my dreams.
Its easy to do all this, and its also completely wrong.
Your life is a series of choices.
To stay in our hometown or to move across the country.
To take a new job, to stay in the one youre at.
To continue a relationship thats unhealthy or to walk away.
To be exceptional or to be mediocre.
To do the hard work required for your goals or to be comfortable and never achieve growth.
Each of these is a choice you make.
Nobody makes you stay or go, do or not do anything its alwaysYOUR choice.
Nobody makes you be kind or cruel, its your choice.
Nobody defines what is important to you or what your career and your social life should look like.
Its you who decides what success and happiness are for you.
Its a harsh fact to face, that we are both the creator and destroyer of our life.
Life handed me an obstacle, but it was my choice to overcome it.
Sometimes you need help.
Why you ask for help doesnt matter.
Whats key is recognizing that its absolutely okay to ask for help.
Its healthy and beneficial even.
Weve mistakenly been taught that asking for help is the equivalence of weakness.
Asking for help signifies strength, trust and maturity.
Those who ask for help are not afraid to admit fault or own their weaknesses.
Growth isnt about the highs, but the lows.
When youre at rock-bottom theres nowhere to go but up.
Becoming your best self isnt a one-time down-up situation.
The lows can manifest as many things failure, rejection, heartbreak, grief.
Anything inherently dark and twisty qualifies.
Change isnt contextual, its an internal choice.
And it cant be forced.
The most imperative part of betterment is change.
To become our best self, we have to learn to embrace the discomfort of change.
Butchange is a choice not happenstance.
We have to be open to growth through change, but more importantly, we have to be ready.
One more thing Ive found, and its not so much a universal truth, but a philosophical musing.
Dont believe that becoming the best version of yourself has an end-game.
We evolve too much over time to ever have one best-self.
