Love is not a power play, not roles and dynamics and shoes you must fill.
And you cant make someone change for your reasons, or even the right reasons.
We fall victim to these words and pictures because they pull at our heartstrings.
Cody Black
They remind us of what we deserve.
They carry the heaviness of what weve lost.
They inspire us to search for better.
They keep us grounded when were feeling lonely.
They empower us to keep looking for love in its greatest form.
But what if these messages dont really speak the truth?
Cody Black
What if love looks different for all of us?
Based on our individual experiences and situations and people we entangle with?
What if thats all total crap?
Real love ismessy.
Its not being asked to change who you are for someone.
Its not asking someone to change him/herself for you.
But its still beautiful.
But the one thing we forget is that as humans we are continually changing.
And this isnt a bad thing.
Youre going to grow together; youre going to grow apart.
But never in that change should it be about you.
Just as your growth shouldnt be about anyone but yourself.
Love is not asking people to change.
You shouldnt be required to shift yourself on behalf of someones feelings, perspectives, or affection towards you.
but these messages are damaging.
Theyre suggesting that who the person was before, was not enough.
And thats not how real love works.
Love is not a power play, not roles and dynamics and shoes you must fill.
A player changing his ways.
A broken woman becoming whole.
Two people learning fixing and healing one another.
But thats not real, or love.
Love isnt about using someone to fill the empty spaces.
Its not about relying on someone else for the healing you must do yourself.
Sometimes people need to find their way on their own, and perhaps the timing isnt right.
Perhaps they need to find themselves.
Perhaps it’s crucial that you seek your own answers.
Perhaps you have to stop believing that love looks and acts and feels a certain way.
Imperfect, raw, and real.
