Real love is about finding an imperfect person and building a messy, beautiful love.
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Updated 4 years ago,January 28, 2021
We all dream about a perfect love.
The kind of love that fights for us, that stays through thick and thin.
Brandon Stanciell
We imagine our ideal person.
Someone who puts us first.
Someone we can trust.
Someone who stands by our side through the toughest of days.
The girl who listens.
The guy who opens doors.
Brandon Stanciell
We imagine our future love to be all the things weve wished for since we were little.
We give ourselves lists, guidelines, expectations.
We tell ourselves to hold out for the right one and to not to settle for less.
Not to fall for someone who is anything other than what we deserve.
Except the problem in doing this is that were unintentionally looking for something that doesnt exist.
Its wonderful to imagine a future love.
To picture him or her and all the ways he/she will fill you.
To see the relationship and how it grows through every obstacle, or becomes stronger with every roadblock.
But you cant expect your future love to be perfect.
You cant force yourself to wait until the perfect person comes along.
No guy or girl will be able to put you first one-hundred percent of the time.
No significant other can always drop what theyre doing to be available when you need them.
Thats just not realistic.
We all want something that is better than the broken relationships we had before.
We all want the kind of love we see in the moviestwo hearts entwined for better or for worse.
We want to believe that perfect exists and that well find it.
But the truth is, real love is filled with chaos.
Its filled with frustrations and let-downs, arguments and compromises, annoyances and misunderstandings.
No two people will ever completely see eye-to-eye at the end of every fight.
Real love is hard.
But thats what makes it so incredible.
Its not about finding the perfect person.
Its not about falling into a relationship with no roadblocks.
No, its not about settling for less, but its not about demanding, either.
So stop with the lists.
Stop with the expectations.
There is no perfect person.But thereisa heart that will beat in rhythm with yours.
Thereisa soul who is longing to love you in the best way that he or she can.
