It could be an ex-boyfriend or an ex-situation-whatever, either way it hurts and it messes with your mind.
Why does he keep coming back?
Surely it has to mean something!
Thought Catalog Agency
This is the truth about why he keeps coming back into your life:
1.
He doesnt want to feel like the bad guy.
And he wassuperinto me right away.
It wasnt just about having fun, I wanted to find someone I could get serious with.
Even though I saw it coming, I was upset about it.
But the show must go on.
He showed up, I tried to get him back, and I failed and felt like an idiot.
A few months go by and then he randomly texted me wishing me happy holidays.
But no, nothing came of it.
But he would still shoot me friendly texts here and there.
And I would usually reply enthusiastically and then the conversation would die off.
So what was his deal?
So in his mind, he wasnt really ghosting because he was still texting me on occasion.
And Im not giving him a total pass here.
What he did was immature, but as I said, he was still in his frat boy era.
And I dont think he realized that he was giving me false hope every time he texted.
No guy ever wants to feel like the bad guy.
No guy is bragging to his friends about the girl he just ghosted.
A coaching client of mine was going through a pretty amicable breakup.
Basically, she was taking her guy for granted, he was fed up and broke up with her.
Matters of the heart are rarely black and white.
you could recognize that someone isnt the right person but still miss a lot of things about that person.
He wants to hook up… Chemistry is important, but it can never compensate for fundamental compatibility.
It feels good to be wanted and desired, very good.
And sometimes our egos need that fuel of knowing we can still have something.
There is comfort in the familiar even if we know the familiar isnt right for us.
Our hearts and minds will always pull us toward the familiar.
Were creatures of habit.
He has an avoidant attachment style.
But as soon as youre not there, he feels a pull toward you.
Attachment styles can be managed but it requires emotional maturity to do so.
He still likes you… he just doesnt like you enough.
This is usually the most confusing of all.
He has feelings for you, they just arent strong enough.
Usually, this happens after a situationship.
First, instead of being mad that he keeps coming back, ask yourself why you keep allowing it.
Its easy to cut someone out of your life, you might just ignore him or block him.
But youre not doing that.
So ask yourself why.
Why are you allowing him to toy with your emotions like this?
Why do you still have hope that things can be salvaged?
Get to the root of it.
The fact is, we teach the world how to treat us.
Hes only living up to a standard that youve set.
Next, ask yourself: do I really want to be with this man?
That was the case for me with the sweet puppy boy… he was a nice distraction.
If you get vague, non-answers, then thats your answer.
