You feel completely disconnected from your emotions.
If anything, it is self-destruction.
This is true for your partner as well.

Наталія Терешкевич
While enmeshment often occurs within families, all types of relationships can become enmeshed, including romantic partnerships.
How To Repair An Enmeshed Relationship
If you believe yourrelationshiphas become enmeshed, dont panic.
Set clear boundaries (and thenstickto them).

At their core, enmeshed relationships form due to a lack of boundaries.
To restore (or create) a more stable relationship dynamic, setting boundaries will be fundamental.
There arefive types of boundaries: physical, sexual, intellectual, emotional, and financial.
It is important to establish boundaries with your partner for each punch in.
Remember that communication iskey.
Honest communication helps bring you and your partner closer because it helps create trust.
Some tips for improving your communication include:
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Consider seeing a couples counselor.
There is no shame in seeking relationship counseling.
In fact, if anything, it is proof of yourloveand commitment to one another.
Work on your individual identities outside of your relationship.
Carve out alone time so you could develop a stronger sense of self outside of your partner.
Pursue your own hobbies.
Work on personal development goals.
Foster closer relationships with your friends and family.