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Updated 8 years ago,June 27, 2017
Several things about this comment struck a nerve.
It bothered and bristled for the rest of the night.
And I realised it wasnt the judgmental aspect of that person that was actually bothering me.
God & Man
It was the fact they represented a rather large aspect of society that really thinks like that.
Healing is not important.
Self care is not important.
Self care is high maintenance and selfish.
No wonder so many of us are struggling with our mental health.
Because its a vicious circle.
God & Man
The truth is, this kind of thinking does so much harm.
And people have family members who talk this way to them.
YOU arent important, other people are.
this is what this translates to.
And its not true.
Everyone is important, but to you, you HAVE to be the most important person.
You see, other people will let you down.
If you place them on pedestals, they will invariably show you how flawed and human they are.
They will be temporary and leave.
Sure, do good in the world.
You arent going to be productive when you are struggling.
You arent going to appreciated for going in whilst struggling mentally either.
In fact, if you do a bad job, chances are your boss will fire you.
The people who care are really few and far between.
So it is deeply important to make yourself the primary person who cares about you.
It is deeply important to quit toxic relationships, to quit toxic people.
You do not owe them your mental health.
It is possible to be the primary person who cares about you whilst helping other people out.
Celebrate your small victories.
And remember, you are not selfish in wanting to take care of yourself and your mental health.
