Apparently, you have to ask for the things you want and need.
Apparently, it isnt selfish to ask things of other people.
Apparently, asking for things is (sometimes!
Dil
not all the time!
but a good portion of the time!)
the best way to actually, you know, get those things.
The reason why we avoid asking for things usually falls into two categories.
One, we dont think weneedto and two, we dont think we shouldhaveto.
You have to ask.
I understand the belief that you dont need to ask.
That it’s possible for you to just accomplish whatever without anyones help and independently manifest shit.
Sometimes you’ve got the option to and thats great.
Without asking, youre possibly screwing yourself out of achieving the very thing that you want.
And youre frankly not really entitled to anything.
Honestly, youre not.
Thats the opposite of deserve in my opinion.
So, thats something revolutionary.
If you want the promotion, ask for it.
If you want to see someone again, ask them to hang out with you.
If you want a recommendation, ask for it.
If you want something, you ask for it.
Step one in the direction of achieving, you just have to ask.
2.One of the things that inevitably happens as we get older is friendships dissolve.
And sometimes, that means youre just not close with people anymore.
But what you cant do when that inevitably happens is venture to shove your way back into their life.
Its refusing to respect that someones moved on, even if you havent.
Its at its mildest rude and at its worst emotional manipulation.
So what do you do?
You let them go.
Its all you really can do.
If you want to heal, you have to leave things alone.
Even if its hard.
Especially when its hard.
I am trying to forgive my parents for being people.There isnt a lot to say about it.
Parenthood doesnt absolve you from being human.
If anything, it means youre probably going to screw up more.
Im trying to remember that even though were all adults, theyre also still trying.
That they do not have all the answers.
That they are people.
I hope they can forgive me for being a person too.
Sending love and light is their mantra.
They just put out that love and light, those good vibes, and thats enough.
Someones heart is ripped open?
Love and light, babe.
Love and light to you.
You guessed itL&L.
Love and light and thoughts and prayers are synonymous with, I dont actually care that much about this.
Because love and light?
Its honestly a dismissal.
It means youre not interested in holding others, or yourself, accountable.
Actions really do speak louder than words.
And love and light?
What do you do with them?
Give me something I can do something with.
I dont want your love and light.
I want you to actually build love and light, not just say it.
I am tired of repeating, Your life probably wont change and thats why youre privileged as a cis-white-man.
Thats the definition of privilege.
But most of all, I am angry.
But I am trying to stay angry.
Because angry beats hopeless.
I can do something with angry.
Hopeless will bury me, it will bury all of us.
But anger will dig us out.
Even if were furious that we have to be holding the shovel in the first place.
