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Updated 8 months ago,August 20, 2024
Is it love?
Or is it manipulation and mind games?
They blow hot and cold,love bombingyou one minute and withdrawing the next.
Unpredictable love createsan addiction in the brain, moreso than even the craving we develop when experiencing stable love.
You start becoming fixated on them, wondering what theyre thinking and doing.
Its because youre experiencing an emotional rollercoaster thats affecting your craving for the next dopamine fix.
They take pleasure in making you jealous.
Youre dating someone new, and they start mentioning their ex.
Or your current partner keeps mentioning how many people have crushes on them.
These manufactured love triangles are meant to destabilize you.
Take heed and trust your instincts.
They neg you with backhanded compliments designed to make you feel insecure.
Healthy relationships will make you feel secure.
You will feel assured of your irreplaceability and lovability in a healthy relationship.
Even when theyre complimenting you, they may be negging you by minimizing or detracting from their praise.
By lowering your perceived value, they get to feel superior in a way they otherwise wouldnt.
You never know where you stand in the relationship and find yourself walking on eggshells.
Attempts at holding them accountable lead todiversion tacticsmeant to confuse and disorient you.
You are blamed for bringing up any issues in the relationship at all and are inevitably silenced.
This isnt healthy love: this is emotional abuse.
You deserve better than mixed signals and mind games.
You deserve respect, safety, and security.
