When you dont love yourself, how will you ever trust that anyone could actually love you?
Self-esteem doesnt just mean feeling good about yourself.
Self-esteem is built on being good, competent, and lovable and recognizing it.
Jacqueline Whitney
And loving yourself doesnt mean you love everything about yourself.
It means you realize you are lovable and worthy of love.
Here are the signs your self-love tank is low.
You cant just be yourself.
People who love themselves can justbe.
There are comfortable and confident navigating any situation and trust that theyll be able to handle anything.
You are worried about what other people think.
Look, we all worry a little bit about what other people think.
But for people lacking self-love, the worry is louder and all-consuming.
And theres a lot at stake when you do that.
If someone approves of you, youre relieved, you feel OK.
If someone rejects you, then youre worthless, a loser.
You are extremely sensitive to criticism.
No one likes too criticized, but it happens, its life.
And were all flawed!
If you dont love yourself, you will be furious when someone criticizes you.
People who dont love themselves rely on others as a gauge of how lovable they are.
They may put someone elses needs above their own to hey them and gain their approval.
You dont trust your own judgment.
You struggle to make decisions and when you do make a decision, you fear its the wrong one.
You may not trust your own intuition which can cause you to stay with someone who treats you terribly.
You feel like an imposter.
Also known as imposter syndrome.
You basically doubt yourself and your abilities and feel like a fraud.
You dont really trust positive feedback.
You feel like anything you accomplish is due to luck or an accident.
If you lack self-love, you will always be bashing yourself.
How crazy does that sound?
But thats where our minds take us when we just roll with the negative self-talk.
You dont take care of yourself
Another major sign that youre lacking self-love is you have unhealthy coping mechanisms.
Maybe you feel like you deserve to suffer and be punished for being so terrible.
You just feel inferior and constantly compare yourself to others and feel like you come up short.
This could be people in your circle or even worse, strangers on social media.
We all do this from time to time its hard not to!
You need constant reassurance.
You dont really trust it because you dont love yourself.
Youre always waiting for the other shoe to drop and this puts you on edge all the time.
You may also need constant reassurance from others.
You are always looking for another fix because your sense of worth isnt stable.
You cant or dont havehealthy relationships.
Or maybe you cant connect.
Your thoughts dont have to control you.
Pluck out those negative thoughts like weeds and tell yourself the opposite.
Treat your mind like a garden and start planting positive things in there.
If you keep it up, youll see those thoughts grow into something really beautiful.
Self-esteem comes from pushing past our comfort zone.
It comes from setting goals and working toward achieving them.
Do something even when you dont feel like it.
Push yourself to learn new things, do new things, and explore.
Give yourself an outlet to feel good and try something you havent done before.
Its a great way to have fun and build your confidence.
Be Active
Being physical is proven to make you feel good.
It doesnt have to be at the gym.
Just make it consistent and a priority.
So, youve made mistakes.
Its OK. We all have!
No one is thinking about you as much as you are.
Its very hard to be in a negative space when you are filled with gratitude.
Its such an amazing shift to have and its so easy to do.
Youll get through it.
I cant begin to tell you how many times this simple little phrase has saved my sanity.
Remember, youve survived every one of your worst days.
