Use the red flag items below to assess whether you might identify the following toxic behaviors in your partner.
He now emotionally invalidates and neglects you and emotionally withholds from you.
They may even call youcrazy,distrustful, overreacting, or dramatic.
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He begins arguments out of thin air just to blame you when you react.
You get the sense that he likes provoking you.
Manipulative people thrive onchaos.
He tries to make you jealous on purpose.
They gain fuel from these reactions.
You get the sense that hes envious or jealous of you.
Healthy,high-quality partnerssupport you and cheer you on.
Toxic partners tear you down.
He rarely takes accountability for his harmful actions.
Instead, he stonewalls or gaslights you when you bring up your concerns.
When you address a concern constructively, you are met with extreme resistance from this partner.
This person refuses to take responsibility for any of his actions big or small that may have hurt you.
You do not get peace from this person, even during special occasions.
He abandons you during times of need.
The most depraved of toxic people are known for abandoning or abusing their loved ones even during life-threatening illnesses.
Hes condescending, patronizing, or chronically sarcastic.
Hes unpredictably hot and cold and retaliates when you set boundaries.
You never know where you stand with this person.
The next, youre walking on eggshells hoping not to enrage them.
Hes shady and disrespectful on social media.
You catch him in white lies and big lies.
You catch your partner lying about minuscule matters that dont seem relevant to lie about.
You go overboard trying to hey him, but hes rarely reciprocal.
He returns your kindness with cruelty.
There is very little reciprocity as he returns your generosity with cruel and callous treatment.
The kinder and more compassionate you are to him, the more you are degraded and punished by him.
He only seems to become kinder to you when you withdraw your attention because he seeks to re-establish control.
He expects you to fix his life and do extra labor.
In that case, you do not have a healthy partner.
You have the full-time job of raising a grown adult.
IS HE OR SHE TOXIC?
Scoring Explanation:
12-36:Has some harmful toxic tendencies.
This person is displaying too many toxic behaviors which could harm you.
It is best to detach as soon as possible.
Cut down on your investment in this relationship and beginreality-checkingin terms of how this relationship has affected you.
106-156:Extremely toxic (high probability ofnarcissistic and psychopathictendencies present and possibility for escalation).
It can be helpful to seek professional support at this time.
