Walking away is not taking the easy way out.
Walking away from a life of sadness and hostility was one of the bravest things I have ever done.
I married my high school sweetheart at 18 and we became pregnant shortly after.
Sam Foster
As you could imagine that didnt end well, and it wasnt for lack of trying.
Its hard to navigate a marriage so young, and its even more difficult to keep it intact.
You all can guess how that ended.
He was significantly older than me, and I liked the stability.
We got engaged a year later, and everything was wonderful until it wasnt.
Sometimes in a relationship things go stale without you realizing it.
Sam Foster
You are so busy floating about your lives to recognize that the puzzle pieces arent fitting quite right.
It wasnt that I wasnt in love; Im sure he loved me too.
Neither of us were happy.
Our differences outweighed the good, and eventually, we felt like roommates.
Deep down I knew that I couldnt be the person he needed either.
Wedding planning brought out the absolute worst in us.
We were constantly fighting and stressed.
His drinking became a constant burden.
The dead silence in our home and our relationship was ripping me apart.
What would I say to my parents?
What would our friends think?
I made a commitment, so I needed to stick it out, right?
He was like a breath of fresh air in my stagnant life, and I felt like me again.
Feeling horrible about what I was doing, made me realize I needed to choose.
In all reality, the new man in my life had no influence on my decision.
My forever love was out there somewhere, and my fiance wasnt it.
I got my own place and I began to put the pieces of me back together again.
I am happy to say that new man ended up being my forever love.
The kind of love that makes you better than you were yesterday.
I use to believe in soulmates, but now I believe in hard work and dedication.
We got here because we continued to battle the hurdles and fight for our marriage.
We got here because this is where we wanted to be.
It isnt easy, but its worth it when you find the one worth fighting for.
Now, this is the part where I am sure I will catch a lot of opinions.
Would I walk away if we realized we were harming our children by staying together?
Divorcees tend to get a lot of heat from society, saying we took the easy way out.
I am here to tell you that divorcing my sons father, and leaving my ex was not easy.
What was best for our mutual happiness.
It was difficult and scary, heartbreaking and devastating, but it was the right thing to do.
