We really want a concrete ending, a period at the end of the chapter.
We would say our goodbyes, and cut ties slowly and gently, to lessen the heartbreak.
We would promise to still remain friends, and to always be there for one another.
Ollie Owen
But how many break ups really end this way?
How many times do we leave relationships feeling a sense of peace, or of closure?
In reality, breakups are rarely neat and tidy, and they are very rarely gentle.
And as much as we may want it, we usually dont fully feel that we have closure.
Relationships are messy, and the endings arent always clean.
We crave a final sentence.
The comma becomes an ending, and then the choppy ending feels unfinished and unresolved, like something ismissing.
Sometimes we feel as though the goodbye came too soon or too suddenly.
Maybe we didnt even get a goodbye at all, at least, not a real one.
And without closure, its hard to feel like everything is going to be okay.
We want to be able to close it and store it away.
But the pieces are too jagged to put back together.
Without closure, the broken bits are too full of pain to squeeze into a little box.
We so badly want to analyze the situation, breaking it down into logic and facts.
But often times theres no rhyme or reason.
Theres no fix for a broken relationship.
Theres no proof or logic that will solve this riddle, no matter how badly we want it.
Sometimes he wont saygoodbye.
Sometimes he wont tell you that he still cares.
Sometimes he wont help you tie up the loose ends.
When you dont get the closure you need, you will have to create the closure yourself.
Closure will come when you realize that maybe hes not the one for you after all.
You will have to convince yourself that he did love you, despite how hard he broke your heart.
You will have to acknowledge that it is time to create new beginnings.
You will have to fight to let go of whatwasin order to make room for whatcould be.
Because, you know, deep down, that you shouldnt hit it one more time.
You know, deep down, that the ending has already started.
You will have to realize that he is now part of the past, part of your previous chapter.
Youll have to remind yourself that you will feel warm again one day.
One day you will be okay.
Youll have to remind yourself that the ending doesnt change the middle.
The ending doesnt make the story any less special, or less magical.
I can promise you that eventually it wont hurt so much.
You dont need to worry so much about your heart…your heart knows how to heal.
You see, eventually you will understand why this story took place.
You see, one day, the glue will be dry, and your heart will be healed.
