Closure is a decision that comes from a place of empowerment not one of acquiescence.
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Updated 1 year ago,April 5, 2024
Closureis bullshit.
We know when a relationship has ended.
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We feel anxious, knowing something has changed but we stay waiting for them to confirm our worst fears.
More often than not, you already know the answer.
Let me explain a few actualities about the truth: 1.
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You dont really want to hear the truth, 2.
Your partner will more than likely never tell you the real truth, 3.
The truth will likely further damage you more than you already are and 4.
THE TRUTH IS NOT NECESSARY.
Sometimes, people do not have the self-awareness to articulate why they no longer care for you.
The truth is simple: you are no longer working for him.
Maybe your partner wanted something different initially and then changed their mind or maybe the infatuation just worse off.
None of the aforementioned possibilities matter.
I am a perfect example of the person that will never tell you the truth.
The truth is often cruel and people in love are often not accepting of it.
I will likely say something to the effect of: I just dont feel like you are ambitious enough.
If he doesnt care about me, then why does he stay?
You get five Yelp stars for being desperate and accommodating.
The real question is: Why doyoustay?
The answer: fear and attachment.
Hestays because the situation is perfect, even if only for him.
He will likely tolerate you for as long as your low self-esteem allows him to.
Closure is an internal process that does not require external information or validation.
Accepting less than what you require will always negatively impact your self-worth.
