Im not crossing it for you, Lance; Im not drowning for you.
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Updated 5 years ago,February 10, 2020
Stop playing Build-A-Man.
I love love and relationships, but hear me out.
Kelly Sikkema
There is a difference between building a man and buildingwithhim.
This is still how I feel.
The same is just not expected of men.
The intent is clearly for me to sympathize with him and almost root for this relationship.
And in ways,I do.
Im internalizing this nonsense and it has to stop.
Why couldnt she love himandbreak up with him?
Why does love and fuck this have to be mutually exclusive?
Im not crossing it for you, Lance; Im not drowning for you.
I can love you from the shore.
Why are women always expected to be in love and irrational or cold and practical?
Can I have senseandlove you?
Are we not allowed to love ourselves and believe in self-preservation?
Ladies, say it with me: Self-preservation is key.
Yeah, I said it, Carrie and Big were toxic.
You do not need to lose yourself and your life.
And more than you dont need to, you shouldnt.
Just becauseyousee the potential doesnt mean anything.
Everyone has potential, but faith without work is dead.
Stop trying to manufacture the man of your dreams because youre only setting yourself up for failure.
Find a man whose goals, plans, and future youreassistingwith, not wholly creating.
If youre reading this and you feel personally victimized right now, settle down, Ms. Norbury.
What Iamsaying is that theres a difference between an ambitious man and a wishful man.
The latter is not worth the sacrifice.
Its not enough tojustwant something.
We all want things, but you need a plan, you better be actually working towards it.
Thats what separates a goal from a dream.
Dont let the man without a plan drain you help those who help themselves.
you’re free to love a man but you have to love yourself first.
Put your best interest first.
You have to look out for you.
