The moments that stop the world only happen when you stop and appreciate the world.
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Updated 6 years ago,March 17, 2019
Some people write because they want to help others.
I write to help myself.
Guilherme Stecanella
If whatever comes out also helps someone else, great.
Todays exercise for helping myself is writing out reminders of 25 behaviours that always blow up in my face.
Behaviours I should stop doing.
They arent doing me an ounce of good.
They are robbing me of the meaningful relationships I have with others.
So stop telling people what you think and start asking them what they think.
Nobody cares how much you know until they know how much you care.
Theodore Roosevelt
2.
Building castles in the sky
Nobody cares about your plans.
Nobody cares about your projections.
Nobody cares about your tomorrow.
Get real and stop time traveling and start living.
Happiness is not something you postpone for the future; it is something you design for the present.
Jim Rohn
3.
Most people arent much different, so stop treating them like they are.
If it isnt, concede.
Stubbornness is the strength of the weak.
Johann Kaspar Lavater
4.
This cant happen if today you pick up the same name as yesterday.
And it certainly cant happen if you are only reading the same books as everyone around you.
You want to grow?
Stop reading about the people who share your same worldview and go read the opposite.
Murakami
5.
Why do the same to others?
We are all ugly.
We are all beautiful.
It is up to you to decide which version you want to see.
So stop looking for the bad andstart letting in the good.
I am not the worst of what Ive done.
Jay-Z
6.
Instead, sit down and shut up.
Your news can wait.
More times than not a supportive ear beats a running mouth.
After all, love is felt.
Success is when the people you love actually love you back.
Warren Buffett
7.
Take time to think about what really makes you happy, then design your life around it.
You may just find you already have the right ingredients but were following the wrong recipe.
Chase stuff that lastsfriendships are a good place to start.
Simple is the new cool.
Nothing gold can stay Robert Frost
8.
Stop making things harder than they have to be.
The obvious answer is the answer.
My dad
9.
Your mind need time to breathe.
Your body needs time to breathe.
You need time to breathe.
So stop being so damn busy it isnt impressing anyone.
When you pay attention to boredom, it gets unbelievably interesting.
Jon Kabat-Zinn
10.
Holding grudges
Most people do not wake up and think to themselves how they can wreck your day.
So when it comes to holding grudges, just let go.
You cant move forward if you cant move on.
Forgiveness does not change the past, but it does enlarge the future.
Paul Boese
11.
Complaining about things you are doing nothing about
Nobody likes complainers.
Especially those who never do anything to improve their situation.
You may learn that helping people fix their problems is the key to minimizing yours.
If you dont like something, change it.
If you cant change it, change your attitude.
Maya Angelou
12.
Talking over people
The second you interrupt someone is the second you lose them.
The next time you feel the urge to jump in on someone, just breathe.
You might learn something.
Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply.
Stephen R. Covey
13.
Being there for someone is enough.
So stop trying to be their answer.
Entonces callate la fucking boca.
Junot Diaz
14.
If you are running someone elses race, you will never win.
So stop running someone elses.
You dont want to be like your heroes, you want to see like your heroes.
Austin Kleon
15.
Growth was not meant to be easy.
It was meant to hurt.
Waiting until tomorrow only makes it more painful.
So stop quoting successful people who have done the work you havent.
It is something you bring.
Stop trying to make something great and instead focus on getting great at the making.
Your career will thank you for it, as will your attitude.
Pointing your finger at others
Blaming others is a losers strategy.
It not only makes other people feel bad, it makes you look bad.
The people that initiate the world own themselves.
This includes their mistakes.
So stop pointing fingers and start offering solutions.
Dont criticize them; they are just what we would be under similar circumstances.
Abraham Lincoln
18.
The most important muscle you’re free to grow is your resilience.
So stop letting one simple opinion determine the value of your work.
Dont be buffaloed by experts and elites.
Experts often possess more data than judgment.
Colin Powell
19.
So stop shying away because it stings.
What hurts holds truth.
Tim Ferriss
20.
And it is up to you, and only you, to make it happen.
No one is going to save you.
No one is going to throw you a line.
What we get out of life is a direct reflection of what we put into it.
So stop thinking you deserve better and get to work.
Dont go around saying the world owes you a living.
The world owes you nothing.
It was here first.
Mark Twain
21.
Ignoring the basics
Successful people did not achieve their success because of one thing.
They achieved their success because they focused on the little things.
So stop ignoring the basicsthey are your foundation.
The details arent the details, the details are the thing.
Charles Eames
22.
Keeping your gratitude to yourself
Writing what you are grateful for is a sound way to start the day.
But it is not nearly as effective as actually showing it.
If you wake up one day and you are grateful for a friendship, let them know.
If you realize during the day how incredible your partner is, let them know.
Gratitude on its own is good.
Gratitude shared is better.
So stop keeping it to yourself.
Your life will be better for it.
So will someone elses.
People need room to show themselves.
So stop passing judgement and start withholding it.
I dont know if you have ever noticed this, but first impressions are often entirely wrong.
Lemony Snicket
24.
You will never hey everyone.
So stop trying to andlet your uncool self shine.
You may just find that by doing so, the right people think you are very cool.
Being honest about the existence of a blemish can enhance your offerings true beauty.
Daniel Pink
25.
Not only will your relationships thank you for it, so will your sanity.
However, the underlying theme to all these pursuits is learning how to shut up.
Dont be like most people.
Stop, listen, and then act.
Your relationships with others will thank you for it, and so will the relationship you have with yourself.
People who listen more than they speak should impress you.
People who listen to all viewpoints before speaking should impress you.
John Mashni
Everything is choice.
Today is yours so shut up and enjoy it.
Ah and before I forget , stop eating crap for lunch.
