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Updated 4 years ago,July 30, 2021
Your entire life is constructed of boundaries.
Your family knows how to treat you because of what you have shown them youll tolerate.
The people around you know how to treat you based on how you treat yourself.
God & Man
It is not only important to have boundaries, its fundamental.
The most basic social boundaries are what we call showing simple respect.
Usually, people know where these boundaries are and they know not to cross them.
You cannot fault other people for crossing the boundaries you never had the courage to set.
Little by little, your resentment of this person breeds.
You begin to pick out unseemly facts about them.
Your perception of them, over time, skews more negative than positive.
This is all a defense mechanism.
This is all your way of unconsciously detaching because you dont feel safe.
You start blow-up fights over otherwise innocuous moments.
Its confusing to be on the receiving end, because it feels as though youre just overreacting.
What that person doesnt see is that the problem is really a tipping point.
Everyone sets boundaries eventually.
Everyone feels the need to protect themselves eventually.
Everyone gets pushed to the point of having to fight back eventually.
The question is only when you do it, which largely determines how youll do it as well.
Is it right for someone to cross your boundaries?
No, of course not.
The best way to ensure that other people honor your limits is by telling them what those limits are.
You cannot fault someone for crossing the boundaries you never set in the first place.
