One of the biggest issues with social media is the havoc that it wreaks after breakups.
And those mistakes can cause huge problems, both with your ex and your self-esteem.
What kind of mistakes?
Christin Hume
One of the biggest mistakes that people make after a breakup is that they seek closure.
One of the biggest issues withsocial mediais the havoc that it wreaks after breakups.
They didnt know the intimate details of each others lives as they went on with their own.
Now, unfortunately, everything is different.
And, unfortunately, this often doesnt happen fast enough.
I have a client who left her boyfriend because he was a mess.
They agreed to remain friends and kept up their social media accounts.
Thinking that some other girl had a better version of him made her crazy.
Her self-esteem was in the gutter.
And then I reminded her that people only post their best things on social media.
They dont post the fights or the posturing or the doubts.
What she was seeing was a curated version of her exs relationship.
Understanding this allowed her to end her social media connection with him and begin to truly move on.
Moving on too quickly.
Another huge mistake that people make after a breakup is that they move on too fast.
So take some time and be alone.
Its important to cry and feel your feelings and process with your girlfriends.
Gain some understanding into what happened and see to it that history doesnt repeat itself.
Have you and your ex agreed to be friends?
Do you want to set an example for other people that people can break up and remain friends?
Good for you, but I am afraid its mostly impossible to do so.
When people are romantically involved and break up, especially if its one-sided, being friends just isnt possible.
Staying in contact with them now will only serve to slow down your healing.
Holding on to what could be.
Wishing for these things will only drive you bonkers.
The beginning of a relationship is a magical time.
Unfortunately, maintaining the chemically induced excitement of the early part of a relationship is simply impossible.
Even people in long-term, happy relationships no longer have those crazy feelings about each other.
Their chemical draw has settled and they move into a more comfortable, loving relationship.
Furthermore, many people hold onto their exes because they focus on what their partner could be.
Unfortunately, holding on to someone because of what they could be will only be an exercise in futility.
You cant save or change someone, and trying to will only hurt you more.
There are so many mistakes that people make after a breakup, so know that you arent alone.
I know that you want to find love we all do!
