You might have spent years in a toxic relationship.
You might have assumed you would never find anyone who treated you with love and respect.
When you finally get into a comfortable, consistent, serious relationship, you should beproudof yourself.
Allegra Messina
You should bethrilledabout how much progress you have made.
You might actually be upset because its taken you this long to find someone.
You shouldnt let the successes of other people dampen your own successes.
Either way, youve found a stable relationship.
You should be basking in your excitement.
You have a right to be happy.
You have a right to be proud.
When you treat everything like a competition, youre not only hurting yourself.
Youre also hurting the people you care about the most.
If your best friend gets engaged, she wants your support.
She wants you to be jumping up and down with her.
She wants you to be excited about getting to walk down the aisle with her on her wedding day.
Its going to push her away.
Thats not the impact you want to have on a close friend.
You want to support her the same way you would want her to support you.
You want to be there for her to celebrate her accomplishments.
That wont happen if you feel like youre taking a step back every time she takes a step forward.
The happiest girls are the ones who arent treating life like a competition.
Theyre the girls who only compare their current selves to their past selves.
The happiest girls are the ones who trust themselves.
