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It creates the potential forcomplex traumato develop, especially when one is later re-violated in adulthood.
Your life resembles a reenactment of old traumas.
The trauma repetition cycle is real.
And its birthed in the ashes of a violent childhood.
They may have a history of childhood trauma.
Their fight for survival in childhood leaves a void in adulthood that is often filled with similar struggles.
Chaos becomes our new normal.
What we have to remember is that narcissistic parents arent all that different from narcissistic abusers in relationships.
When love-bombing turns into devaluation, our body becomes biochemically bonded to our abusers.
This biochemical addiction leaves us reeling.
They create a very powerful attachment thats actually strengthened by intermittent cruelty and affection, pleasure and punishment.
Theres also a psychological component to this addiction.
Yet they often come disguised as our saviors.
Many abused children cling to the hope that growing up will bring escape and freedom.
But the personality formed in the environment of coercive control is not well adapted to adult life.
The survivor is left with fundamental problems in basic trust, autonomy, and initiative.
We crave their excessive praise because we lacked the unconditional positive regard we deserved in childhood but never received.
In fact, it was the only form of connection offered to us.
Survivors of narcissistic parents have an extra layer of healing to undergo.
The drive to complete and heal trauma is as powerful and tenacious as the symptoms it creates.
The urge to resolve trauma through re-enactment can be severe and compulsive.
She is used to taking a caretaking role catering to someone elses needs while neglecting her own.
Verbal and emotional abuse has conditioned you towards self-destruction and self-sabotage.
You may have internalized early in your life that your needs were not as important as others needs were.
Addictions and dissociation become default coping mechanisms.
The brain gets very confused.
Suicidal ideation is devastatingly common and pervasive among childhood abuse survivors.
This learned helplessness lends itself to belief systems that cause survivors to feel as if nothing will change.
They may feel defective or different from others because of the immense adversity they experienced.
There are disparate inner parts that develop which seem out of alignment with your adult self.
Then there are parts which are defensive responses to the trauma itself.
These parts manifest in self-sabotaging ways, but they are actually misguided attempts to protect us.
This ruins the possibility of authentic connection or vulnerability with others.
Whether they stemmed from childhood or adult traumas, these parts have much to tell us.
A daily exercise regimen is also a great way to replace the unhealthy biochemical addiction we developed to toxicity.
There are tremendous benefits from goingNo Contact or Low Contactwith toxic parents as we heal.
Address subconscious behavior patterns by bringing the true beliefs underlying them to the surface.
They can channel their adversity into freedom, peace, and joy.
