To have a strong relationship, you have to accept the deeper, internal aspects of your partner.
Your understanding of life happens as soon as you enter this world.
You see your parents walk around and make strange noises.
Edward Eyer
Your little baby brains turn, and you attempt to do the same.
Then you grow up.
You watch those closest to you move through life.
Your behaviors, characteristics, thoughts, and often opinions are formed through these first relationships: your family.
Theyre not always good, but theyre all you know.
In romance, your understanding of love is shaped by the love you experienced.
You understand how love is given and received based on how parents interacted with you and your past relationships.
And when those experiences are negative, they have a significant impact.
Maybe a parent abandoned you at a young age, creating the belief that love will always leave.
Perhaps a lover cheated, and you lost trust.
Maybe an emotionally abusive relationship formed the way you now accept romantic love.
Whatever your experience may be, it shaped how you see relationships today.
Its the reason a vast amount of research is done on adult relationships.
Thats why people constantly talk about theories like love languages and attachment styles; they hold truth and insight.
Thats why understanding your partners unique past with romantic love is important.
Most people might suggest not talking about exes in a relationship.
Id argue that, done right, its very beneficial.
Imagine getting into a relationship with a new person.
They continuously text you when youre out; they never seem to believe you.
You dismiss their behaviors of jealousy and mistrust as crazy or annoying.
You never understand their behaviors come from the pain of being cheated on in the past.
Our past love shapes our present love.
And thats something that needs to be talked about more.
