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Updated 2 years ago,June 17, 2023
Enablers of the narcissist can exist on a spectrum.
They show signs of idealizing or viewing the abuser in inaccurate ways.
They may even partially defend or sympathize with the abusers actions.
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This is a particularly ominous sign if theyre the ones reaching out to you to supposedly warn you.
Stay vigilant about what you share with others and who may be used as an enabler.
They victim-shame and blame you while downplaying the abusers actions.
They may say judgmental things like, I was a victim too and I would never do that!
They may ask things like, Why didnt you just leave?
or Why not call the police?
Some suffer fromcomplex traumaand find it more difficult to extricate themselves from an abuser.
They trauma dump in a sadistic way that is not reciprocal or empathic.
Their stories dont seem to add up and they may still be feeding information to the narcissist.
You may encounter enablers who still remain in contact with the narcissist.
This can be a red flag in itself.
Yet in the stories they tell you, its clear they have strong social networks.
They blameyoufor the actions of the narcissist and for their own actions.
This double standard and hypocrisy can be baffling.
They recruit others in their bullying and shaming.
They may be cruel and callous in revealing your personal information to others.
Be careful of narcissists and their enablers.
Some people become unwilling enablers due to trauma or fear.
Others are more malicious in their motives.
Stay vigilant and avoid revealing personal information to anyone that may later be used against you.
