Years ago, I met a guy who I thought was absolutely perfect for me.
Now how often does a fantasy match reality so perfectly?
Not only that, the chemistry was explosive.
God & Man
After we parted from that magical first meeting, I floated home on a cloud.
At last, the wait is over, dating is over, I found the guy for me!
But it didnt …
Hmm, thats strange.
Maybe he thought I didnt like him?
Or maybe hes afraid of being rejected; I know thats a real fear for most men!
That has to be it.
The next time I see him, I will verify my signals are clear and obvious.
About a month or two later, we crossed paths at a friends birthday party.
I mean, Im so good at reading situations, thats what I do for a living!
I cant be wrong about this.
Yes, this was happening, it was, I feel it.
OK, now Imsoconfused.
This doesnt make any sense.
Why isnt he asking me out?
I spent many more months in the grips of intense confusions.
How do I crack his code?
How do I get a relationship to happen?
This is all so confusing!
He took one look at her and that was it.
I literally felt like I had been knocked sideways.
The next day I couldnt even walk straight, my whole world felt like it was tilted.
And this is what women always get wrong about men.
We think it doesnt make any sense.
We think they play games and send mixed messages.
But really, we do.
The problem is we dont want to admit the truth thats staring us in the face.
And once you really internalize this fact, your dating life will dramatically change.
you could relax and stop stressing and making yourself crazy.
When it comes to men, the most obvious explanation is usually the correct one.
Just because somethingfeelsa certain way doesnt mean thats the reality.
You cant interpret situations when you have a bias toward a certain outcome.
Here is the straight up truth: Men arent complicated, womancomplicate them.
But How Does He Feel About Me?
By far the most common questions I get are variations of figuring out how a guy feels … Weve been seeing each other for months, but he wont make it official….
He always watches my Instagram and Snapchat stories, and he likes my pictures!
What does that mean????
It means he is kind of interested in you, but doesnt want a relationship with you.
Why is it so confusing?
Again, because we dont want to accept the truth and we all want to think were the exception.
What women always get wrong about men is thinking theyre evil or complicated or commitment-phobes or players.
But most of the time this just isnt the case.
Men usually show you exactly who they are.
If he isnt committing to you, its because he doesnt want to.
Dont delude yourself or adopt a man-hating attitude.
See a situation for what it is, and accept that men just arent that complicated.
