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Updated 7 years ago,December 1, 2017
Heartbreak can be dire and debilitating.
Sometimes, it can even physically hurt, as emotional and physical pain actuallytrigger the same brain regions.
Simply put, emotions that arenot expressedwill always end up somewhere, sometimes with a vengeance.Defense mechanismsare unhealthy.
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After all, our bodies were designed to achieve a state ofhomeostasisand to heal itself.
If you have a wound, you dont keep picking at your scab.
But not so simple when it comes to emotional wounds.
As aforementioned, we are built to achieve homeostasis.
Avoid triggers
Stop going through your old photos.
Stop rereading sweet messages.
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Avoid those places and things that remind you of them, at least for a little while.
Our brain goes haywire because we have built strong neural pathways that bring us comfort and security.
What are the actual statistics?
Relationships begin and end every day.
Unexpected love stories are written and concluded in the most surprising ways.
Its not you not being pretty enough, its their definition of whats pretty.
Its not you being too demanding, its their interpretation of whats demanding.
Expectations impact outcome (self-fulfilling prophecy).
Remember that experiencing heartbreak is much like an addict experiencing withdrawal.
Its the same parts of the brainbeing triggered, after all!
We process information, and sometimes we uncover different perspectives in the process.
Surround yourself with people
Self-esteem is generally our meter of our social lives.
When we are content with our social life, our self-esteem increases.
Having a solid support system doesjust that.
Also,studiesshow that people with higher self-esteem handle heartbreaks better because they tend to blame themselves less.
Keep yourself productive
Again, breakups hurt our self-esteem because were biased to thinking were the problem.
To combat this, we should rebuild it by allowing ourselves to achieve more through becoming productive.
Find things to look forward to
More than being just busy, there should be new goals created.
New goals create new habits.
This is essential to moving on because old habits and old routines linked to your partner should be unlearned.
