Healing does not happen in the past.
Healing happens in the today and the tomorrow.
After the burning the soil is richer, and new things can grow.
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People are like that, too.
We dive deep into the pain and then stay there.
We forget that we still have a life to livea life that is waiting for us.
We spend so much time looking back that we start to feel stuck.
We wonder if its too late to fix everything and start again.
We will be able to piece our heart back together by running back to yesterday.
Pain is rarely silent.
But sometimes this tendency to stay stuck in time is what prevents us from truly moving on.
And of course feeling this great loss will come with tears and long dreary days and nights.
Of course we will have to go through the very real grief that comes with loss.
But a very crucial, defining element of healing is rooted in what we do next.
Healing does not happen in the past.
Healing happens in the today and the tomorrow.
We heal by creating a new beginning, starting from precisely where we are today.
We have to reimagine a new kind of happiness that is composed of these unfamiliar materials.
We have to learn to march forward in life, with hope by our side.
Perhaps its okay to take a little bit of each person with us as we go.
And even as we begin again and take that first baby step forward, its okay to reminisce sometimes.
Its okay to find little pieces of old memories in this new chapter.
Its okay to still feel a little warm spot in our heart when we think of them.
Its even okay to miss them.
Because healing doesnt mean forgetting.
We can only hold on so tightly to other humans.
But the good ones will stay.
So when we lose people, its okay to let them go.
Its okay if they are just one verse of our song.
Its okay if when the song ends, they are no longer ours.
And though its hard, in time, we do learn how to live with loss.
We learn how to live without them.
And in time, we will feel a sense of relief when the world feels a little bit lighter.
And we find that perhaps we are ready for a different songa song of a different style.
A song with a fresh melody.
And we will feel an eager sense of excitement about discovering and composing this new song.
The way forward may be new and unfamiliar, and at times, it may be filled with loneliness.
But if we keep going, our pain will be replaced by curiosity.
Small sparks of color will replace the blinding gray.
And our perspective will slowly shift and transform.
We still have so many new memories to create.
We have a whole life to fill with color.
And in time we will see that the world is full of new beginnings.
And well be thankful that we didnt give up.
