Ask yourself: which moments am I romanticizing?
Which moments am I forgetting?
It is irrational and destructive, but it is sometimes inevitable.
Wendy Liu
We want so desperately to have a return on our investment.
We are trained to seek their validation.
We are hooked on thedrugthat is their abuse.
But that doesnt make the pain any less real.
It hurts to be erased without a second thought.
It hurts to remember any good times, knowing they probably did not mean as much to the narcissist.
This is normal and this is human.
you’re able to grieve.
you’re able to rage (safely).
you’re able to miss the person you thought you knew.
you’ve got the option to feel like its the end of the world.
But you’re able to also give yourself permission to know that it isnt.
This isnt the end of the world this is the beginning of a new life.
You do not miss the narcissists true self.
You miss their false mask.
Ask yourself: which moments am I romanticizing?
Which moments am I forgetting?
Youll remember each time they sabotaged you, isolated you, betrayed you.
Youll remember how they cut away pieces of your identity, bit by bit.
Youll remember how they taunted and belittled you.
All those times they wiped away your tears?
They were the cause of them.
Each time you thought they were going back to the man or woman they pretended to be?
They reminded you of how they would never change.
Remember.Remember what they did.
How they made you feel all the times they werent giving you fake apologies and crocodile tears.
Remember how they almost drove you to the point of no return.
Remember how they treated you like dirt on the bottom of their shoe.
Remember how they tried to rob you of your self-esteem.
Narcissists have little to no remorse orempathy.
They dont feel to the extent that we feel.
Dont give up hope just yet.
Even by justnothaving the narcissist in your life, youre opening up a new pathway.
A pathway for healing.
For true love and self-love to enter.
Whenever youre tempted to re-engage in the toxicity and breakNo Contact, I want you to read this.
I want you to remember how far youve come.
Remember your sense of self-worth and never forget all the ways they tried to take it from you.
Remember how far youve come without them.
Remember how far youll go if you continue to heal.
