Why your emotionally unavailable ex-partners seemed to be the most available after you left them?
In the abuse survivor community, this bang out of behavior is known as hoovering.
Why Do We Reconnect With Toxic Exes?
Now that we know why toxic ex-partners reach out, why dowelet them back into our lives?
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Toxic love, is quite literally, a drug addiction.
The ending of a relationship can bring about feelings of self-doubt with regards to our desirability.
Remember, the biochemical bond we develop with toxic partners is inexplicably addictive.
A malignant narcissist knows this and will use sex to prevent you from detoxing properly from the relationship.
To make you a backup source of supply.
To use their friendship with you as a sign of their normalcy.
He/she still wants to be my friend.
There was never any dysfunction in the relationship after all!
This allows your toxic ex to treat your breakup as a symptom of mere incompatibility rather than abuse.
To control you and prevent you from moving on.
Many narcissistsstalk and harasstheir ex-partners after the ending of an abusive relationship.
To create love triangles and add you to their harem.
Malignant narcissistic exes thrive off of the attention of having multiple lovers at their beck and call.
To access your resources.
Access to you, after all, equals access to your resources.
