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Updated 8 years ago,May 26, 2017
Ever asked yourself that?
Why some people hate themselves so much or why you are one of those people yourself?
The point where we might have been struck by failure, by our own stupidity, by surrounding lies.
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Whatever it takes to make us believe that we shall not deserve any empathy towards ourselves.
Its an awful feeling if youve ever been there.
Its even more awful if you cant remember a time where you havent been there.
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When people hate themselves, theyre accompanied by this constant feeling of dissatisfaction.
Nothing they do will do.
They believe theyre not worthy of love and they hence, fail to give love no less.
So, why do people hate themselves.
Some people cant see that though.
They think its normal to hate themselves because it makes sense.
They say they have their reasons.
Digging into their past too much that they hardly ever come out of it.
Regret is not an unfamiliar feeling.
We all know it.
But how well do you know it?
To the extent where they would believe theyve never done anything right.
Feeling weak, incapacitated is also a reason why people hate themselves.
They might fail at times to see things right.
One wrong angle could make everything goes wrong.
One wrong view at their problems and they see them bigger than what they could take.
So, they cringe and shrink into themselves because man, they cant think they can take this.
Another push to hate themselves even further for their weakness.
And this would step in the moment they think they can make a new start.
That maybe they dont have to hate themselves that much.
And you know what, they would start.
Not just an inner feeling, sometimes it projects due to a rejection from other people too.
A rejection that they cant really deal with.
That they wont think about overcoming by making themselves better in any way but just by hiding away.
Theyll hate themselves again because why wouldnt they.
They obviously failed at being good, right!
Its not really right but thats how theyd see it.
They dont really admit their mistakes.
The neurotic assumes too much responsibility; the person with a character disorder not enough.
Then neurotics are in conflict with the world they automatically assume that they are at fault.
Comparing themselves to others.
They might be envious of others and that leads them to hating themselves.
Partly because they cant see themselves anything near the ones theyre comparing themselves to.
Their lives are just less than those of others.
Theyve taken the wrong directions while others took all the right ones.
Instilled hate can also be a reason.
You may wonder how could hate be instilled, right.
No one is ever born with hate.
To understand this you may like to know about what is known as The Monster study.
Wendell Johnson of the University of Iowa selected twenty-two orphan children, some with stutters and some without.
Some people also hate themselves for not being who they once dreamt to be.
For not coming to the expectations of those they have once loved.
For not fitting into the worlds standards of beauty, of intelligence, of ranks.
And the worst of all, for not fitting into their own standards of life.
Why do people hate themselves.
Its a question with endless answers.
But, is it possible that we could make someone love himself?
Or at least, hate himself less.
I believe that we can, that monster study kind of second my belief.
you could help someone.
Its true that it must eventually come out of his own heart and mind to work.
But you’re free to help them.
By telling them that regret doesnt change the past but what they do can change the future.
Trying with all the belief weve got.
Trying with all the hope there is.
What are our lives without hope!
Idowu Koyenikan wrote once, A genius in the wrong position could look like a fool.
You help people hate themselves less.
As Freud said, How bold one gets when one is sure of being loved.
And what a life you live with boldness.
I beg you to not think of time.
That youll hardly make anything right by now.
