What happens when the most intelligent people on this planet experience love?
They want to better understand it, explore it and test it.
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Updated 6 years ago,July 14, 2019
Love is much simpler when youre young.
Anthony Tran
As we get older, love gets complicated.
It becomes more complex, more intricate and MUCH more delicate.
Falling in love is harder.
Anthony Tran
Letting go of past loves is even harder than that.
Why doesnt love get EASIER every year?
This would make more sense.
And the truth seems unnatural backwards, even.
More wisdom and experience should make it easier for us to find love.
And, believe it or not, falling in love is partly a decision.
Love isnt magical on its own; we make it magical.
With age, that magic fades.
Lifes magic fades, too.
Of course, how much the magic fades depends on the person.
And that is partially why love loses its magical qualities over time.
The more intelligent we become, the less there is to wonder.
So there must be more to the equation.
so that fall in love, you should probably feel that you need love.
Because if you dont believe you need or deserve love, youll reject it whether consciously or subconsciously.
And what does it mean when someone wants or needs love?
It means that person wants a partner to share lifes adventures.
This person is, to put it bluntly, lonely.
So, the more independent and intelligent you are, the harder it is for you to find love.
Independence more than intelligence ruins our relationships.
Why do people break up even when things are (seemingly) going well?
Its because they want independence.
They dont want to spend every single day with their significant others.
And even if they love each other, they need time for themselves.
They need to spend time alone.
And its a beautiful thing it really is.
But the more independent you are, the more likely you are to feel suffocated.
People often feel suffocated when their partner has different ideas about the level of independence allowed in the relationship.
When one person is significantly more independent than the other, the relationship is going to become messy.
One feels hurt, and the other feels smothered.
The trick is finding someone who is just as independent.
But having similar requirements in terms of independence does make it more likely that youll be compatible.
Independence compatibility still isnt enough.
Your intelligence will make things difficult.
Romantic love at least how we perceive it now is doomed.
If you think about it, its funny.
Weve learned how to do math.
Weve learned about science and literature.
I can even remember learning how to balance a check back in eighth grade.
But we were never taught how to love.
There are no classes.
No textbook chapter is dedicated to it.
We go into love blind.
Do you know what else is natural?
But we have professional athletes and trainers.
Talking is natural, but we have professional speakers.
Thinking is also natural, and we have scholars and philosophers.
Love may be instinctive but there are certainly better and worse ways to love.
There is certainly plenty to learn.
But for some reason, we dont write a lesson plan for love.
So what happens when the most intelligent people on this planet experience love?
They want to better understand it, explore it and test it.
Get stuck on a math problem, and itll drive you nuts.
Get stuck trying to figure out love, and it almost certainly will drive you mad.
Love has started wars.
It has taken lives.
It has tortured, maimed and destroyed.
Because love centers on emotion, its not easy for an intelligent person to find and keep it.
The emotions will send this person on an anxious tailspin.
Love isnt magical on its own.
We make it magical.
Its all in our heads.
