Is there a formula, a recipe for love?
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Updated 6 years ago,November 10, 2018
Is there a formula, a recipe for love?
I dont think there is.
God & Man
I think that we fall in love randomly, erratically, spontaneously.
But when it comes totruelove, there most certainly is.
There are three types of chemistry that need to exist for love to be true.
A gestalt shows up when the organized whole is greater than the simple sum of its parts.
Somehow, the pairing defies the laws of mathematics, and 1 + 1 = somethinginfinite.
But with the third, love becomes 3-dimensional, and within that space, true love exists.
Two are necessary for love, but not sufficient for true love.
Something within the relationship becomes transcendent, taking on its own life through the union of two people.
This is what makes destructive relationships notoriously difficult to leave.
Physical
The simple chemistry between two people that find one another physically attractive.
This is necessary for love to develop, but it is not sufficient.
Like magnets, physical chemistry sparks that initial interest in something more.
Intellectual
This is the chemistry that exists when two people can talk for hours.
The conversation flows naturally, and they stimulate each other mentally.
Its necessary, but not sufficient.
Having profound intellectual chemistry feels like finding a home in someone elses mind.
So much of communication is nonverbal, or simply too subtle to pinpoint what makes it flow.
Spiritual
Spiritual chemistry is when character aligns, with a touch of something transcendent.
It goes beyond opinions and beliefs although they can be part of it.
There is no uncertainty.
And when that gestalt exists, that is true love.
