Ive come to realize that the qualities that make for exceptional, stand-the-test-of-time partners are incredibly overlooked.
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Updated 5 years ago,March 6, 2020
I feel like I have this burning secret.
So much so that I worry they wouldnt even rank in peoples top five.
Devon Divine
So I want to bring these qualities to the forefront.
I want to put them in the beaming, warm spotlight they deserve.
Because finding a life partner is complicated.
You cant possibly know what you want until you experience it.
EQ is the capacity to be aware of, control, and express ones emotions.
Its also the ability to realize your impact on others.
Some people have a challenging time putting into words what theyre feeling.
Maybe its due to a lack of showing emotion in their family.
Perhaps they were even ordered to turn off their feelings.
But luckily for all those people, its possible to increase your EQ.
Finding a partner with a high EQ or willingness to increase theirs is like winning the lottery.
Life is a long journey, with ups and downs.
Comfortability
I hesitated using this word for what Im trying to describe.
I didnt even know this was a thing until I started dating my new boyfriend.
I can talk about my dreams of one day owning a coffee shop in a quaint little down.
I can also talk about the fact that our Mediterranian dinner made me gassy AF.
Openness
This is an umbrella term for a lot of things.
Openness to understanding you.
Openness to new ways of thinking.
Openness to people unlike them.
Openness to a deep kind of love.
Some people are firmly rooted in their beliefs.
They see things one way and wont budge for a new perspective.
Other people are jaded from their past.
They cant move through the pain they experienced when they were younger.
Because of that, theyll always be a toe out the door.
Its a quality in a person that they didnt bring upon themselves but that can change.
The question is if they evenwantto change.
Because a lot of people dont.
A relationship without understanding and room for growth doesnt seem like a fulfilling one.
