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Updated 7 months ago,October 4, 2024
Lets talk about getting out of the friend zone.
Fortunately, its a pretty easy topic to address.
First, I will say that I relate to the confusion.
Karsten Winegeart
A few years ago I met a guy who I thought was perfect for me.
He checked all the boxes and had everything I was looking for.
He wasnt making any sort of move though so I sent a girlfriend in to do some investigating.
She was cool and nonchalant about it.
and have stayed friends with a lot of the guys Ive dated in the past.
I took every opportunity that presented itself to let him know that dating me carries zero weirdness.
(Im feeling a wave of humiliation just thinking back to that time!)
This doesnt change even if you and he have hooked up.
There is no room for doubt, no confusion, no mixed messages, its just clear as day.
You know it and everyone around you knows it.
You dont wonder, you just know.
The only time this is ever really the case is if hes afraid of being rejected.
Most men are terrified of rejection and would rather not try as opposed to try and risk being rejected.
Getting around this one is easy enough though, just show a little bit of interest.
Bam, problem solved.
There wont be any talk of ruining the friendship or any of that.
Well then forget it.
If what you want is a relationship then dont waste time on someone who doesnt want that.
The reasons dont matter, the facts do.
If he doesnt want a relationship, then he doesnt want a relationship.
Maybe the timing is off or maybe he just doesnt think you and him are a good match.
It may feel personal, but trust me, it isnt.
