But the hardest part is trying to move on when they dont realize you are hurting.
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Updated 4 years ago,March 1, 2021
Heartbreak doesnt discriminate.
It doesnt ask if you dated and for how long.
Kirill Vasilev
Heartbreak doesnt care for labels.
It doesnt feel any less real just because they werent your boyfriend or girlfriend.
When relationships have labels youre either together or youre not.
Youre either single or with them.
You hold onto hope that one day it will be something.
The hard part about endings is when there wasnt a beginning to compare it to.
Suddenly you were just emotionally invested in this person with no going back.
Then its over and youre just expected to be okay.
Feelings are real and you dont need a label to justify that.
Dont let someone make you feel guilty for this heartbreak.
Sometimes we love people we didnt date deeper than anyone we did.
Its not a breakup but it feels like one.
You arent sleeping at night.
You find yourself crying at three am.
Now your phone it a little more silent.
You miss them but you also miss the possibility and belief that this could have been something.
The pain is a little deeper but you cant express these things publicly.
You dont have to date people to fall in love with them.
And you dont have to date people to get hurt by them.
When your heart is invested in someone the pain feels exactly the same.
But the hardest part is trying to move on when they dont realize you are hurting.
When they dont even realize how much of an emotional toll you took on them.
So you answer their texts.
You try and be strong.
You pretend that you accept the circumstances and you guys can be friendly and cordial.
And youre losing sleep over someone who is probably sleeping with someone else.
I know how much it hurts.
I know what its like to replay everything in the past wondering what signs you read wrong.
You got your heart broken by someone who should be easy to get over.
But what isnt okay is you trying to be strong by keeping them in your life.
Maybe they notice as you pull away.
Maybe they realize you arent talking as much.
Maybe they call you out on it wondering if something is wrong.
And part of you wants to scream yes.
I feel completely broken.
But its not all on you.
This person led you to believe something was there.
Had they been completely honest from the start you wouldnt have fallen so fast but they didnt.
Instead, they knew how you felt maybe they added fuel to the fire.
Maybe there was a physical relationship there without a label.
Maybe they told you everything you wanted to hear to keep you around because your presence boosted their ego.
Cry as hard as it’s crucial that you.
Feel things as deeply as you do.
Pull away without an explanation because you dont deserve this pain and they dont deserve you.
