Remembering this is both heartbreaking, and freeing.
Sometimes, we seek out goodness in people who we need to believe are good.
Sometimes, we confuse someones potential for their reality.
Alina Vilchenko
The context of our relationship with a person explains so much about our perception of them.
Your brain is a choice-supportive mechanism.
This is important to remember when youre really stuck on a person.
We get stuck because we start to see people one-dimensionally.
Sometimes, this is a beautiful thing.
Its the reason why we stand by one another even in our darkest hours.
Its the reason why marriages last the ups and downs of decades.
Other times, it is a paralyzing thing.
The way we see other people largely depends on what we want to see in them.
Brad Meltzer explained this best:
We are all ordinary.
We are all boring.
We are all spectacular.
We are all shy.
We are all bold.
We are all heroes.
We are all helpless.
It just depends on the day.
Everyone villianizes the person who hurt them, even if that person is just wounded, not malicious.
you’re able to start seeing people outside of the bits and pieces youve amounted them to be.
you could start seeing them as imperfect and whole at the same time.
it’s possible for you to replace regrets with lessons learned.
you’re able to gain clarity, and in this, freedom.
There is no one version of a person that exists.
There are thousands, in the minds and eyes of everyone who has ever interacted with them.
Yours, too, can shift.
You just have to give yourself the opportunity to see someone differently than you ever have before.
