There are many different types of love we experience in a lifetime.
When people talk about falling in love, they talk about romantic love.
In romantic love, your relationship is built a lot on chemical reactions and surface-level compatibility.
Rendy Maulana Yusup
The other trick of romantic love is that it often fills a void.
On top of this, there are the expectations.
We expect our romantic partners to give us purpose, security and meaning in life.
However, romantic love is not the kind of love on which you build a lifelong partnership.
After about one year togetherthough it can vary romantic love should start to settle into attachment love.
That word, attachment, tends to have a negative connotation, but that is not what this is.
Attachment love is the love youre actually looking for.
It is the love you experience when your partner is your best friend, confidante, and friend.
It is the love that you experience when you feel completely comfortable and at ease in your partners presence.
Romantic love is common, attachment love is rare.
Romantic love is temporary, attachment love is long-term.
Romantic love is based on what you dont have, attachment love is based on what you do.
And when it subsides you have to make a decision.
Because this is what love is.
That is just being in love, which any fool can do.
Your partner should be your best friendandyour lover.
