Trying to make me do “fun” things I don’t want to do.
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Updated 1 year ago,January 16, 2024
Ask Redditknows that sometimes being nice can backfire.
1.When people feel compelled to eat with me if Im eating alone.
Nate Johnston
Where did this notion come from that its sad to eat alone?
I like it, its peaceful.
2.Trying to make me do fun things I dont want to do.
4.People telling me to stop apologizing.
Okay, great, now I feel bad for apologizing too.
5.Would you like some insert random food or drink?
No I am good, but thank you.
No here take it.
No I really dont want it.
Come on just take it.
6When youve just gone through a rough time and people try consoling/one-upping you by telling their hardship story.
Let me wallow in my own misery kindly.
7.Not telling me something to protect me.
8.Hand on my back as a stranger man passes by me/ ushers me through the door.
9.When Im stuttering and someone says take your time.
It puts more stress on me to complete the sentence and makes me stutter even more.
10.Sympathetic Valentines Day cards.
The only thing worse than knowing that no-one is attracted to me is knowing that someone pities me.
Not having anyone be attracted to me is fairly easy to live with.
Being pitied puts a dent my self-pride.
11.A random stranger telling me to smile.
Like what am I, window dressing for your world?
Like I dont know you and fuck off, you dont know whats going on in my life.
It makes me uncomfortable and feel like I owe you.
I pay for my own food on dates.
15.Strangers giving helpful advice about pregnancy or parenting.
Especially if its crazy.
Did you guys know its super dangerous to take your baby outside your house for the first four months?
Because some weirdo at the mall was very surprised I didnt already know this.
16.Being called sweetie, sweetheart, hun, darlin or anything similar when I DONT KNOW YOU.
I definitely dont know you like that.
Its worse from a professional (especially a doctor) because it feels patronizing rather than kindness/endearment.
17.Offering to help clean up the kitchen at the end of the night.
Im tired and I want you to go home so I can decompress.
Ill clean it up myself.
Besides..youll just fuck shit up.
18.When people that give a shot to gettooinvolved in your business.
Its fine to care, but some people take things overboard.
Itll be a lot more fun than that!
19.Donating to charity and posting it to social media.
Youre not really being charitable, youre just boosting your ego.
you’ve got the option to keep asking me but I cant answer until I can breathe again!
21.Kneeling / sitting to look at me eye level, just stand up, its fine.
22.Making me food without asking.
I may not be hungry or may not like what youve made (i hate ketchup).
Ask before you prepare something more than opening a bag.
I dont get the point.
Maybe if youre a shut in, I can understand.
No, they deserve more credit.
Shut ins can do better than THAT.
24.Any time a driver tries to wave a pedestrian across the road.
Example:
I dont care where we eat.
Me: Ok do you want burgers or sushi or..?
Lets go to sushi place
[at sushi place]
Do you have chicken nuggets?
For some reason I dont like anyone, even family, touching me.
I accept it cause its the socially acceptable thing to do.
27.When straight people proudly brag to me about how tolerant they are of gay people.
…Thanks for that, I totally dont feel alienated now.
28.When someone says, Everything happens for a reason.
29.Asking how someone is when it is done wholly out of politeness and convention.
30.Patting on the back or any gestures like that.
I dont like being touched.
31.Trying to comfort people after a death or something traumatic.
33.A person holding the door open for you and youre far away.
I hate that awkward jog to the door.
34.I have a restrictive diet (by most peoples standards).
35.Clothing as a gift.
I dont control the store policy though and Im doing my best to help.
36.Breaking the order of how things should move to get to give someone the ability to go first.
Now you are just confusing people and wasting time.
37.When I used to work in food service I would hate it when people were overly polite.
38.People taking over a task and doing it for you without request.
I didnt ask you to scan my items in the self-checkout for me.
I asked you to unfuck the scanner so I could continue with the task.
39.Calling to ask how I am so you’re able to gossip about me to others.
40.If you dont merge in zipper fashion, youre dead to us all.
Letting three cars in to be polite completely disrupts the flow.
41.When youre the quiet one in a group and somebody points out in front of everyone.
43.Waving me on at a stop sign when they clearly have the right of way.
44.People saying these are about your size arent they?
45.Receiving birthday or Christmas gift from loose acquaintance, thus creating cycle of guilt or undesired effort.
47.People being given pets as a suprise gift for Christmas or a birthday.
50.Yielding in traffic when you have the right of way.
