I made the same mistake countless others make.
I followed my heart, because thats the thing to do, right?
And what a waste of time and energy that was!
kevin laminto
And I see countless other women making the same mistakes as me over and over again.
What a shame and what a waste.
And these are a few that I think are the most important…
1.
He is sensitive to your feelings.
Look, not every guy is Mr. And most have a hard time understanding the emotional torrent that a lot of women navigate almost daily.
But he doesnt need to understand your feelings so that validate them.
Sometimes your tears will have no rhyme or reason.
A good partner isnt your boss or your dictator.
He doesnt place demands or expectations on you or guilt you for not meeting his expectations.
He respects you and your opinions.
He may not always agree, but he shows you respect anyway and he factors you in.
He is emotionally open with you.
You cant spend your life trying to beat down emotional walls.
Thats just exhausting and who has time for that?
A good partner will be open and transparent with you.
Keep that in mind when chasing after the guys who justcant commit!
He wants to work on it.
A lot of women take full responsibility for a relationship.
And when nothing seems to work, then feel defeated.
They wonder whats wrong with them, why they cant get this right.
The fact is, there is nothing wrong except for the fact that they chose the wrong guy.
Theright guywill work with you.
He wants to make it work no matter what.
Thats what you do when you love someone.
You dont shut them out because you hit a bump in the road.
You dont punish them for being human and having needs.
You work together to find a happy place.
He has his act together
You cant be someones healer or problem solver.
You also cant marry potential.
you’re gonna wanna take a person for who they are right here and now.
Is he emotionally stable?
Does he have a handle on his life?
Maybe this will change down the line, but you cant bank on maybe.
to get to be a good partner, he needs to be in a good place internally.
If hes not, youre wasting precious time and that is one thing you might never recover.
I remember in my younger days I knew the guys I was drawn to didnt really have long-term potential.
Yeah, it was fun at the moment.
This is just fantasy thinking.
Once you clear your perspective, its important to take a look at your level of self-worth.
How do you feel about yourself?
What sort of love do you want?
The subconscious mind is always seeking validation.
If you feel unworthy, you will seek out men who make you feel not good enough.
Its pretty twisted, but thats the way it works.
So take a look at yourself and ask yourself why youre drawn to certain unhealthy patterns.
