But just because he doesnt ask, doesnt mean he doesnt crave.
Well he gets the same feeling when you ask for his advice.
Men have an overwhelming need to feel useful, to feel like they have something of value to offer.
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This is true in all areas of his life and especially so in relationships.
but I still love sharing it with him and getting his feedback.
And he absolutely lights up when given the chance to offer his input.
Men in general are very solution-oriented and thrive when there is something to be solved.
When you desire him
You dont always need to wait for him to initiate physical affection.
A huge turn-on for a man is seeing how turned on his woman is by him!
The right way does not include nagging, guilting, lecturing, or shaming.
He also feels like a little kid being scolded by mommy for misbehaving.
When youre proud of him, it is a huge driving force.
Conversely, when youre disappointed in him, its crippling and makes him feel like a worthless loser.
Appreciation is probably the biggest motivator for a man and its something most are starved for.
As I mentioned, men are starved for your approval and they need to feel like winners.
The worst thing you could do is to expect certain things from him or act entitled.
Appreciation isnt just about what he does for you, its about appreciating who he is.
Show appreciation for his good qualities, his values, his ambitions, his life choices.
Find those things you love about him and show him you appreciate them.
Dont assume he just knows, because he doesnt.
This is probably the most powerful and transformative relationship skill that you’re free to ever master.
