We cant stand rejection.
And it can make us incredibly insecure.
There are some people who get rejected left and right and can continue living as if nothing happened.
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They brush it off.
They dont take it personally.
Unfortunately, not all of us are so impervious to rejection.
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Not that we arent capable of it, but we choose not to be.
Even to the best of us.
Its how you react to rejection that makes all the difference.
Scenario 1: You go out to a bar on the weekend with your friends.
You decide to come up to him or her and start a conversation.
However, this person isnt interested in talking to you.
This person doesnt give you a reason.
He or she just isnt interested.
Scenario 2: Youre in love.
Youve been in love for quite some time now and are ready to take things to the next level.
Unfortunately, he or she didnt see the relationship going in the same direction.
So he or she breaks things off altogether.
You cry for days, maybe even weeks.
You become a hermit.
So which of the two responses to rejection was warranted?
The answer is neither.
It took me a while to understand this, but heres the truth: Rejection is nothing.
Not that it doesnt exist, because it certainly does.
It has no impact on you unless you let it have an impact on you.
It carries no weight on its own; its you thats weighing down on you.
Nothing and nobody else.
Sometimes, rejection isnt so straightforward.
you could be in a relationship for ages and experience a constant feeling of rejection.
Maybe your significant other isnt giving you enough attention.
There are countless signs that let you know the one youre dedicating yourself to isnt reciprocating said dedication.
But you already know this person.
you’re able to pick up on his or her cues without having me explain them to you.
You just need to open your eyes and see the situation for what it is.
We fool ourselves into believing that someone cares when in fact this person doesnt.
We dont want to be rejected.
Why dont you want to be rejected?
Take a second and answer the question.
I already know the answer.
Its not that you dont want to be rejected; you dont want to feel rejected.
But is rejection a rejection if you dont feel rejected?
If we dont feel it, if we arent hurt by it, then does it really exist?
But lets be honest.
If you dont feel or experience something for yourself, then it might as well not exist at all.
Because to you, it doesnt exist.
It isnt a part of your world.
And because of this, you wont and cant be moved by it.
Easier said than done, right?
It isnt that difficult.
You are in control of your mind and your thoughts.
You are in control.
Rejection doesnt make you feel like crap; you make you feel like crap.
Rejection is an action, not an emotion.
If you believe that you are being rejected, then you probably are.
But who gives a sh*t?
Last time I checked, there were over 7 billion people in this world.
