You would do anything for them and you believe they would do the same for you.
There are thousands of songs, movies, and books, written on the very subject.
One day you might crash into someone that turns your world upside down.
Devin Phaly
You are completely enamored with this new person as they inch into the nooks and crannies of your life.
Its like nothing youve ever experienced before.
You become vulnerable, and let your walls crumble down in unexpected ways.
You would do anything for them and you believe they would do the same for you.
A distance may start to grow.
You start to see a different side of this person and confusing disagreements start to surface.
The playful banter is no longer echoing through the spaces you occupy together.
One minute youre completely in love and before your very eyes, it falls apart.
People will do terrible things to avoid being honest when a relationship starts to get rough.
They might cower behind their own fear of vulnerability, slowly drifting away leaving you in the dark.
It makes you realize the power others can hold over you.
How disposable they can make you feel when you never felt that way to begin with.
Having certain parts of you shattered.
Parts that you didnt know could be shattered before this person you trusted so much did it for you.
Your judgment feels cloudy and blurry.
You become guarded, building a wall around your heart to protect it from any further damage.
You start to feel like the risk of getting your heart broken isnt worth letting anyone else in again.
These feelings are valid and natural.
The first thing that you better do is switch the narrative.
There is so much more to love than what you share with a romantic partner.
Its the love you have for yourself and who you truly are as an individual.
The love you have for your community, friends, family, hobbies, aspirations.
You start to re-expand your identity again.
You reunite with yourself, jumping back into your own arms inviting new kinds of love back in.
People will come and go, but your soul is constant.
You owe it to yourself to leave your heart open because you deserve to be loved.
Remember that you are irreplaceable and one of a kind.
You bring uniqueness to the world.
You are capable, strong, and resilient.
Being hurt is an inevitability of experiencing love, but it doesnt define you.
What you could control is how you define yourself.
Let the hurt be the fuel to your healing.
Once you practice and internalize these affirmations, the cynicism will begin to fade and the walls will crumble.
Youll have faith in love again because you see that you have carried it within you all along.
