Your twenties are hard.
We forget to say this sometimes.
We forget to reassure each other that its okay to be struggling.
Abdi Lopez
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Updated 8 years ago,September 7, 2017
No.
This essentially sums up a lot of what life is like in your twenties.
And on your own.
Abdi Lopez
Your twenties are a tumultuous time, and rarely does anyone admit this.
I mean, think about it.
For basically the first time in your life, youre completely on your own.
And for those of you living in your parents house, its still not easy.
The rules have changed, your relationship with your parents has changed.
Youre trying to be independent while you are simultaneously somewhat dependent.
No matter your living situation, its all complicated, and its all a bit messy.
It doesnt matter if you are in your early twenties or late twenties.
The realization that you are uneasy will hit you aggressively, like a snow plow running directly into you.
Is anything for you?
Should you quit your job or just keep trucking along?
And then, to make matters worse, theres the social scene of your twenties.
How will you make friends?
How will you find someone to date?
This takes us to the other battle faced often by twenty-something year olds.
This battle is known as the wonderful world of modern day dating.
As soon as you start doingsomethingwith a new guy, all of the questions flood your brain.
Is he looking to hook up or is he basically ready to be engaged?
Is he chilling with other girls?
Is he dating other people?
Is this serious or casual?
And then there are the few that already have two kids and a husband.
The moral of the story is, be careful out there.
Its a dangerous anxiety-provoking dating world.
But no worries, its normal.
You might not be living with many (or any) people, like you did in college.
Youre no longer living with your parents and coming home to home cooked meals.
You wont necessarily come home to someone (i.e.
your mom or your best friend) who asks immediately How was your day?
You have to internalize how your day was.
You wont always have someone to run every single decision by.
Youll have to let your complicated, wandering brain take you to (hopefully) the right conclusions.
So essentially, at some point in your twenties, you should expect to face your quarter life crisis.
But, if its any consolation, its not just you.
You are certainly not alone.
Youre seeing all of the photoshopped moments.
They probably arent eating gourmet cupcakes every single day at work.
Their beautiful body-building boyfriend probably isnt quite as perfect as he looks (at least not 24/7).
You see, the truth is, nobody has it all together in their twenties.
Its just not possible.
Your twenties are hard.
We forget to say this sometimes.
We forget to reassure each other that its okay to be struggling.
Your twenties are basically your second adolescence.
You are changing literally every minute of every day.
Its like facing puberty a second time, but this time, its the adult kind of puberty.
You already have the bra and tampons, now you have to find the money and the job.
Sure, you are going to grow a ridiculous amount in your twenties.
But that doesnt mean you better have a life plan, divided by year or month.
Go with your gut sometimes, Trust your intuition.
Just like Marie Kondo taught us, get rid of anything that doesnt bring you joy.
Being in your twenties are hard, but we make it harder by making everything so damn complicated.
The truth is, youre not going to love everything you do.
Youre not going to be good at everything you do.
So make peace with this.
Then live it up.
