A heart that is betrayed is changed forever.
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Updated 8 years ago,August 9, 2017
You havent always been this way.
Distant, aloof, guarded.
Beth Solano
There was a time your days were painted with innocence.
Where eager eyes gazed at the world with hope and wonder, your heart still shiny and new.
But all of this changed the moment you were betrayed by someone you loved.
Beth Solano
Someone who should have protected you.
Someone who hurt you instead.
Someone who allowed you to be hurt by others.
There is little else that shatters a heart as much as the pain of betrayal.
It tears you open, rips your heart out of your chest.
You have to go on.
So you pick your heart off the floor and place it back inside your hollow chest.
Except, the heart that you put back is never the same heart.
It is wounded, war-torn.
It no longer seeks love, but only to protect itself from the pain of ever being betrayed again.
It needs to know its enemy.
It needs to remain one step in front at all times.
Your heart rejects kindness, remains cynical of it, refuses to accept it.
It would rather suffer on its own than accept kindness that allows it to become vulnerable to another.
Never will I want again.
Never will I need again.
Never will I trust again.
Never will I love again.
It gives up hope of ever being protected and instead learns to protect itself.
It becomes a slave to its independence, its autonomy.
Here, in its fortress, it is safe.
Here, behind its walls, it can remain distant, removed.
Here, your heart can trust itself not to feel.
For betrayal has taught your heart how dangerous it is to feel.
To want, to need.
To desire love, relationship, connection.
No, your heart must deaden itself to its desires.
It must wake each morning with one goal of attack to kill your hungry soul.
To destroy your desires before they destroy you.
This is how your heart stays safe it refuses to be tempted by love ever again.
Except, your heart was created for relationship.
Your heart was created for intimacy.
But intimacy is the enemy, the biggest threat.
Intimacy requires your heart to be vulnerable, to let someone close.
To betray its own desires in the hope it will not be betrayed because of them.
Betrayal has changed your heart.
It has damaged your heart.
It has left it powerless, helpless, vulnerable, wounded, damaged, guarded, broken.
Your heart can no longer trust, does not trust.
It no longer believes in the goodness of anyone elses heart.
It no longer believes it is worthy of being loved, of being protected.
It no longer wants to love, no longer knows how to love.
It has become numb, deadened to its desires, and you tell yourself you are content with this.
That here, you are safe.
You are in control.
Except, you are lonely.So goddamn lonely.
And this is the paradox of betrayal.
You are scared of relationship, yet relationship is the very thing that will heal your heart.
Dear heart, there is a need for you to be safe.
But there is a greater need for you to be loved.
The only way to heal is through love.
You must find the courage to pull down your fortress.
It has kept you safe.
But you have dwelled long enough in your solitude.
It is time to lay down your weapons.
Surrender is not defeat, but the end of the fight.
To love is to risk hurt.
To trust is to risk betrayal.
But you must risk so that you may heal.
Your heart has learned how to stay safe, how to survive.
Now, it must learn how to once again love.
