you’re able to begin to use your body to help you heal.
Trauma is the experience of disconnecting with a fundamental source of safety.
It happens most severely when our attachment is severed to our primary caretakers.
Daria Shevtsova
But there is truly an infinite number of ways the world can traumatize you, and to varying degrees.
There are lots of theories about what trauma is, and where it comes from.
Many believe that it is passed down physically through your DNA.
Others argue that it is shared mentally and emotionally, through learned patterns and observations.
Instead, we fell.
You will feel it physically in your body.
You will feel anxiety, tension, fear, terror, sadness or guilt.
It will be displaced.
It will not have a clear, direct cause.
Trauma is not in your head.
It is in your body.
You store those emotions, energies and patterns at a cellular level.
you’ve got the option to begin to use your body to help you heal.
First, identify where the trauma is.
You do this by feeling into yourself, and noticing where you are tight, or tense.
Our bodies harden to make it protect us.
Of course, eventually, we have to walk.
We have to love.
We have to experience life again.
Healing trauma is not just a matter of psychoanalyzing it.
It is a matter of literally working through it with your breath.
You will need to self-soothe in different ways.
You absolutely must work to take your brain and body physically out of panic, survival mode.
Second, reinstate a sense of safety.
You are traumatized because something scared you and you are convinced that it is still out to get you.
This is what happens when we dont face or overcome something difficult, we assume the threat lingers indefinitely.
If you are traumatized about relationships, you oughta build healthy relationships.
If you are traumatized about money, you gotta get really good with money.
If you are traumatized about traveling, you better travel again.
We do not find the resolution in avoiding these things forever.
Third, stop taking thoughts and feelings at face value.
Last, to overcome trauma, you have to stop engaging in psychic thinking.
This kind of thinking is what takes a triggering feeling and turns it into a defeating spiral.
You take one scary thing and make it into a prediction for what the future will hold.
You are not an oracle.
You do not know whats next, though you are always capable of choosing what you do now.
It is usually an assumption, a projection, a fear turned into a terrifying potential reality.
