Desire doesn’t make it easy, or simple.
Its not a matter of whether theyre able, but whether they want it.
Desire doesnt make it easy, or simple.
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It just makes it possible.
Sometimes, you find love only to discover you have been meeting someones needs without them making a commitment.
Sometimes, your kindness bleeds out into enabling, and your love prevents you from seeing it that way.
You are not a bad person for setting boundaries.
You are not unloving because you eventually have to walk away.
It doesnt mean you cant help.
It doesnt mean you cant be loving.
It doesnt mean you wont have compassion.
This can be deceptive because theyll say all the right things.
Not because they are trying to manipulate you, but because at a certain level, they believe it.
They know youre right, they know they need help, and they know they want to do better.
But that desire is easily eclipsed by other, seedier ones.
That intention is pushed aside once youre no longer with them.
You hear them tell you, again and again, how they want to change.
You watch them express so much love for you and you believe it will be different this time.
Its great to hold hope, but its important to stay clear.
Words without action are empty promises.
Promises without follow-through are mistruths in disguise.
you’ve got the option to only hold so much space for someone who doesnt want to change.
you’re able to only do much to help them if they do not want to help themselves.
you could only sacrifice so much before youre also offering up the quality of your own life.
You cannot sit idly by and nod while someone slowly self-destructs.
You cannot compromise your own sanctity of mind for someone elses unwillingness to salvage theirs.
But like remember that you are not a savior.
The decision to change is theirs.
The decision to stay is yours.
