This may sound simplistic, even spiritual, but stick with me.
Lets give into this whimsical possibility together.
For three and a half years, I went to bed with every shoulda, woulda, coulda.
Korney Violin
And I did this while the man I was shoulding and woulding and coulding was in bed with me.
Do you think that brought us any closertogether?
Do you think dwelling inside every rift that was between us disguised any of the emptiness?
Do you think it made sex feel more sincere?
It just kept him from kissing me.
Thats the heartbreak right there.
Korney Violin
Its what youll need to sober up to.
The reality that none of us cancontrolwhat we are to each other.
None of us gets to decide that we are who another person needs.
Take it from me.
If the person in your bed triggers question after question, they are not your answer.
Youll have to live boldly, choose wisely, love easily, and let go quick.
I learned my lesson, thats for sure.
That rather than dwelling, the better choice is to be brave.
The braver choice is to move when sinking feels so easy.
The braver choice is to get out of your mind and into your life.
Out of your doubt and into your dreams.
If you want to be brave, you must trust the men who leave you.
That leaving you is better for you.
You must soften around the chances, the chance that leaving you is better for him too.
Ask yourself why is it that tofeel good about yourself, you must turn into someones forever?
Its what he needed at this particular time.
That it wasnt supposed to go differently.
Get curious about that reason.
We are only called to be single when life isnt done surprising us.
Dont dwell on this, remember this.
If I had trusted in the likelihood that such surprises do arrive, I would have let go sooner.
I never would have allowed that torture into my life.
I never would have made allowances that did nothing to help me feel any bit more powerful.
This is what that heartbreak taught me.
This is what I learned.
