Are they really arrogant or are they fragile and vulnerable behind the mask?
Why do so many find it impossible to have a relationship with them?
Why is it difficult to have a relationship with a narcissist?
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Once a narcissist has enticed the partner into a relationship, the real problems start to emerge.
The narcissist starts to correct others behavior and pressure them to be perfect or do things their way.
The relationship becomes about meeting their needs to satisfy them.
Many spouses will feel that the narcissist has no empathy and never considers their needs.
They self soothe by having marital affairs, addictions, or other outlets.
The partner of a narcissist starts questioning themselves or doubting themselves, backing down and giving up.
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Narcissists cover up the things they do wrong, so they do not feel judged.
They cannot open up about their hurt, but show an aloof exterior that shuts others out.
Raising their behavior with them only causes them to defend further.
A narcissist feels grandiose and special, so they expect admiration, acknowledgement.
They can feel empty when others do not measure up or meet their unrealistic needs.
A narcissist will attempt to convince the therapist that their partner is the problem, theyre crazy.
They can easily discard their lover and find supplies elsewhere.
So where does this behavior come from?
They were not accepted for their real self and were shamed or humiliated for showing hurt feelings.
Can a narcissist change?
The narcissist has learned to cut off from feelings.
Yet they will not let others see them easily, by devaluing others who do.
Therapy rebuilds their real self, so they can foster healthier relationships with themselves and others.
Can you have a relationship with a narcissist?
Therapy is always recommended, for deal with a narcissist.
