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Updated 7 months ago,October 5, 2024
I give a lot of unsolicited advice.
Ive pretty much always been this way.
This has not been the case, however.
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My endless quest to prove my worth has transferred to my romantic life as well.
Because I could ~fix him~ if hed let me!
It never worked out, and now the only broken pieces I have to repair are my own.
In short, Id fall for projects.
Maybe at one point or another, you have as well.
(He doesnt.)
(She wont.)
The person who has so much potential, but no means to actualize it.
(They never do, at least not with you.)
Heres the thing:Youre looking for a partner, not a project.
Youre not there to fix them.
Youre not meant to save them.
you could only love them.
That is your role.
Nothing more, nothing less.
Otherwise, youre flirting with enmeshment and falling into codependency which helps absolutely no one.
Healthy love is meeting people where theyre at.
Its seeing someone as they actually are, not as who you wish they would be.
Its falling for a person, not a portrait.
You shouldnt have to convince someone to be who you need them to be.
Either they are or they arent.
you better take them as they are or let them go.
Youre the support system, not the savior.
Youre not the artist, youre the admirer.
Life is, and always will be, difficult.
Your partner shouldnt be one of the things that make this true.
After all, love is not a rescue mission.
It is a homecoming.
