Some days the little things that annoy you are all you’ve got the option to see.
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Updated 6 years ago,March 5, 2019
Marriage is beautiful, but sometimes it isnt.
(Is that the irreconcilable difference celebrity couples talk about when they get divorced?
Alfonso Lorenzetto
Some days the little things that annoy you are all it’s possible for you to see.
Like his chewing noises.
Or when he sneezes six times in a rowagainand you snap at him to stop that!
because its seriously driving you up the wall.
Or how loud he turns up the volume on the TV.
Or how he doesnt replace the empty toilet paper roll.
They are all small things, ridiculous to even get worked up about.
All you’ve got the option to see are clothes in places where they shouldnt be.
Marriage is sitting at the dinner table in silence sometimes.
But 16 years later, you have occasionally.
So you sit in silence.
You really believed that.
You thought you would be different.
Its simply not possible.
These kinds of problems are generally hard wired into the relationship by virtue of your respective personalities.
One party may be an introvert while the other is an extrovert.
Maybe one is a neat freak and the other is comfortable with messiness.
Maybe ones an atheist and the other is a person of faith.
These things are not likely to change over the lifetime of the relationship.
It doesnt make any sense to try and resolve them.
He says that we have to learn to distinguish between solvable and unsolvable problems.
Unsolvable problems can berepaired, not resolved.
Marriage is a neverending series of compromises.
Looking for more meaning.
Wondering if this is all there is to life.
This is where love comes in.Love reminds you that he is the person you call when something bad happened.
And even more so when something good happened.
He truly accepts you the way you are, faults and all.
Love reminds you that you make each other laugh until your bellies hurt.
And that he planted a whole garden of sunflowers because he knows you love them.
And that he buried 200 tulip bulbs around your little cabin because he knows you love tulips, too.
Love reminds you that he is always there when you need him.
He will drop everything and come to you in a heartbeat.
you’ve got the option to always rely on him.
Love reminds you how supportive he is.
How loved he makes you feel.
How he fills your life with friends, fun, cats and dogs.
Marriage is not a destination, its a work in progress.
I dont believe that marriage should be hard work.
I believe that it should be easy most days.
But I also know that its not all hearts and happiness all the time.
Marriage, just like life, will experience challenges, tough times, and heartbreak.
Living with ourselves isnt always easy, so how can living with another person be?
We are all flawed human beings trying to do our best but failing regularly.
The secret to marriageand lifeis simple: love and forgiveness.
And most importantly, to find the humour in it.
Laugh, love and forgive, and you will be fine.
